There is a growing problem on the Internet. People are jerks. And the worst part?
Many of these people are Christians.
I suppose we think we can be jerks since no one sees us face to face, nor can they punch us in the face. But if you have been to youtube, read comments on some blogs, or seen what people say on facebook, you’ve seen these jerks in action. You might even be one of those jerks (and not even realize it!)
Somehow, we’ve begun to believe that the best way to cause positive change is by being extremely negative. This is bogus. But fear not, here are a few ways to make sure you don’t become the online jerk no one likes.
6 Ways to not be a jerk online
1) Respectfully disagree: No one knows how to do this anymore. If someone disagrees, we decide they’re totally stupid idiots without brains. Even if you are right and the other person is wrong, this doesn’t automatically make them stupid. If that were the case, we would all be considered idiots because we have all been wrong more times than we can count. So chill out, and stop acting like you’re smarter than everyone.
2) Recognize your own faults: As people, we love to point the finger at everyone else. Conveniently, we spend so much time pointing the finger that we forget to notice our faults. But all of us have problems. Lots of them. If you remember your own flaws, you are going to have better luck not being a jerk to people because of their flaws.
3) Recognize your own biases: For some reason, we all think we have an unbiased, fair and balanced opinion. The truth is, no one does. Your experiences, history, beliefs, and more drive who you are. When you feel criticized, the other person may have been meaning to send a compliment! When you get angry with someone because of something they say or do, try to see things from their perspective without flying off the handle.
4) Walk in their shoes: When someone is being a jerk to you, it is tempting to return the favor. Remember, those people may be treating you like a jerk because they have been hurt by family, friends, or circumstances in the past. Treating them like a jerk is only going to make it worse, so instead why not show some compassion?
5) Love the Unloveable: There are plenty of people online who seem unloveable. They disagree with your politics, theology, and values. But you know what? You were once unloveable too. Despite this, Jesus chose to love you and redeem you. Since someone loved you when you were unloveable, you can love an unlovable person as well.
6) Confront People in Person: If you have a serious issue with someone, confront them in person. Do not put it online for all to see! If possible, don’t even do it over e-mail. It is remarkably difficult to identify motives when communicating online, hurtful to do it infront of others, and unintended misunderstandings lead to bigger problems.
The Secret to Revival
Far too many Christians are bashing other Christians and non-Believers on the internet. If you’re doing this, you’re hurting the church. Jesus didn’t say people would know him because we proved them wrong, and he didn’t say people would know him because we demonstrated our intelligence.
Rather, he said this, “The glory that you have given me I have given to them, that they may be one even as we are one, I in them and you in me, that they may become perfectly one, so that the world may know that you sent me and loved them even as you loved me (John 17:22-23).”
So please, don’t be an online jerk.
Any thoughts?
*Image Credit: Chris Jagers








